Excuses can come in different forms. We can express them verbally, we can think them, or we can adopt behaviours such as addictions. Disguising problems and numbing the pain is really making an excuse for not finding a solution. I cringe at excuses because excuses mean that we are essentially not taking responsibility for our life.
Eckart Tolle in The Power Of Now says:
Every addiction arises from an unconscious refusal to face and move through your own pain. Every addiction starts with pain and ends with pain. Whatever the substance you are addicted to — alcohol, food, legal or illegal drugs, or a person — you are using something or somebody to cover up the pain. That is why after the initial euphoria has passed, there is so much unhappiness, so much pain in intimate relationships. They do not cause pain and happiness. They bring out the pain and unhappiness that is already in you. Every addiction does that. Every addiction reaches a point where it does not work for you anymore, and then you feel the pain more intensely than ever.
Problems begin when we hide our truth and numb our pain. Relief from pain can also include avoidance techniques like giving reasons, procrastination, denial, over-eating, over-sleeping, over-socialising and over-working. Numbing our psychological pain protects us from feeling hurt.
Break the excuse addiction with zero tolerance, more responsibility and greater commitment.
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