To compare can sometimes motivate, but more often it distracts us from focusing on what really matters. It’s rarely helpful to look sideways at what others might have or be doing. My advice is – STOP Comparing!
Kylie is a 31 year-old mother of three children all under the age of three. She is non-stop all day long! She loves being a mum and is considering a fourth child. However, there is another feeling underneath. Sometimes Kylie compares herself with women in the paid workforce and wishes that was her juggling family and work. Kylie has a strong desire to help people live healthier lives with organic food and chemical-free products – she would love to get paid work in the area of her passion. Kylie and I explored the feeling of being pulled in different directions.
I shared that these feelings and pulls were common among a lot of mums and dads. We talked about the immense value she is providing to her children at this moment in time. When in comparison mode, Kylie was questioning her self-worth and not valuing her role as a mum. I explained that sometimes the grass on the other side only appears greener. When she stopped comparing she was once again able to enjoy the choices she had made. Many mums and dads feel these pulls so it comes down to the choices we make.
We can have it all, but sometimes we can’t have it all at the one time. When we compare, self-doubt emerges. When we lack belief in our ability to succeed, we don’t act.
So regardless of what you think or feel or see others do, let the test of whether you succeed be your own decisions and actions. Compare NOT! Love and embrace what’s unique about YOU.
Every Minute Counts and You Can Have It All!™