One way to hinder achievement and life satisfaction is to spend time with the wrong people. By wrong people I don’t mean bad – just people who may be negative, unfocussed and try to drag you down into their drama. Spend time with the right people!
All of us get to choose what time we spend with which people. How many times have you said yes to seeing someone who doesn’t make you feel great about who you are and where you are heading in your life? Or have you ever gone somewhere and regretted that you went – because you know there are much better ways to spend your time? Some people can deplete us, drain us of precious time, energy and positivity and distract us from what we value. It doesn’t mean we can never see these people (which can be hard when some of them are family!) but we need to learn how to keep them at “arms length.”
When you feel the drain happening you need to be strong, focus on your values and intentions and have the courage to say no. Walk away from negative conversations, don’t gossip and introduce upbeat topics when possible – it may not always work but often it will! Being with the right people can be such a cherished and unforgettable part of your life journey. These people can inspire you to great achievements, give you insight and fill your life with excitement and energy.
So where are these right people? The answer may be in these wise words from Will Smith: “Don’t chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing and work hard. The right people….the ones who really belong in your life, will come to you. And stay.”
You are most likely to attract the right people into your life by first being true to you – just be you!
Every Minute Counts and You Can Have It All!™
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Hi Christina,
I wonder why so many people do spend time with people that deplete them? Is it a fear of offending that stops us saying 'no'? And when asked: "What would happen if that person was offended?" I've had people reply "Well, they might not want to see me again!" which ironically is the best outcome. Maybe its the fear of not being liked that's worse than spending that precious time with people who deplete us – we'd rather the pain of feeling depleted by such people rather than have them not like us.